I totally understand David. My hubby was a JW but I had quit years ago.
It seemed like I always was trying to show him how wrong they were..but it was his belief!..Since he passed away, I have often thought..what was so important about trying to taking his faith away?Show him how wrong they were.
Was I being selfish?..Him and his JW family made me miserable but it was the way they believed. It was their right.Some of the things they said to me were cruel..but that was their personality..if not religion maybe it would have been something else?.
What did I gain from it? Nothing. Just defending myself..is that selfish? I felt like it was now that he is gone. But I remember hearing someone say before..live each day like it might be your last..
I think we need to seperate religion from out family..even if they can't. Give what love they allow us to give and let them live their own lives.
If I had swallowed my pride hubby and I would have had a few more pleasant days.
The thing is..you can't change the past..but you can learn from it. What you do with that knowledge is up to you.
Hugs for your pain..Snoozy..